Relationship MultiVitamin: Discernment
One of the most famous and misunderstood Vitamins on the planet is Vitamin B. It is purported to support and increase the rate of metabolism, help support the immune and nervous system, help with healthy skin, maintain muscle tone, promote cell division, especially red blood cells, and prevent anemia. A pretty important vitamin all things considered, it is actually a grouping of eight chemically unique vitamins that are all labeled as Vitamin B.
Just as Vitamin B is complex and made up of unique elements, so too each marriage is unique with two very complex people. To have good chemistry in a marriage, it's really important that have Discernment to know when to engage. We need to be sure we are not stirring the pot constantly through nagging, bickering, or stirring up drama for the sake of our own amusement, or because it's a past-time to while away the hours of our boredom with our spouse. Maybe negative attention is better than no attention at all in your mind.
If you lived in a conflict ridden home growing up, it may even be the way you think "normal" married couples behave. But I assure you, being unwilling to stir up dissension among yourself and your spouse is key to great chemistry. When an issue comes to mind, ask yourself, "Am I stirring the pot, or is this worth the fight?" Then proceed based on your best understanding. Remember, each of us has a certain emotional capacity for each day, and we can waste that energy on passionate argument, or we can expend it on passionate love. The choice is ours to make each new day.