When Life Isn't Fair
You know, sometimes my kids will yell, "That's not fair!" Even as adults, we can be tempted to think that way. Maybe your next door neighbor got a promotion at work, or maybe it seems your best friend is happier than you are. No matter what life throws at you, it's true- Life Is Not Fair!
One of my "book" mentors, Jack Canfield, talks about the danger of comparison. If we only compare a small snippet of our lives with others, we will almost always come up wanting. "He" makes more money, "she" is more beautiful, "they" seem more content with their lives. But is that all true?
Maybe "he" does make more money, but maybe, if you look at the whole of his life and compare it to yours, you would realize that you are more rested and generally enjoy your life more. Maybe "she" looks more beautiful, but struggles with a chronic disease. Do "they" seem more content with their lives? Maybe they have worked harder at finding their true north and are content after many years of struggle.
The point is, just because someone seems better off in some way, it's impossible to know what the fullness of their lives really entails. Focusing on you, what you want, who you should become, what you're called to be as a person is a much better use of your time.
Admire other's qualities, and aspire to be the best "you" you can be. I will never in this lifetime be a graceful dancer, an amazing linguist, or a good accountant, but I can appreciate those qualities in others. I can enjoy being me and let go of the things I won't be. If I really want something, however, it's my job to try to make it happen using the resources I have before me. Focus on what you are strong in, work at improving your weaknesses, and stop looking around at other people.
You are the only you that will ever be- embrace that, and share your gifts with the world! If you don't, you'll not only cheat yourself out of joy, you will rob the world of the gifts you could have given. And that, my friends, would be the ultimate in UNFAIR!
Comments are displayed in order of the last one posted so the most recent Comment is at the top and older Comments are towards the bottom. Replies within a Comment are displayed in reverse order with the oldest Reply at the top and the most recent one at the bottom.
Each post identifies who made the post and the date and time the post was made.
Mouse over the icons for tooltips that explain what the data means.
If you see this icon you can attach an Audio file to your post.
If you see this icon you can attach a Document file to your post.
If you see this icon you can attach an Image file to your post.
If you see this icon you can attach a Video file to your post.
You will see the Ban icon (Report Post as SPAM) immediately following the Timestamp of the post. Click this icon if you feel strongly that the content posted is not appropriate and should be reviewed by the Forum Moderator. You will be provided with a confirmation dialog to be sure you wish to submit this post for review. If submitted, the Forum Moderator will be notified to review the post and will determine what type of action to take.
Click in the upper right corner of this Help modal or anywhere on the web page outside of the modal to exit Help.×